Get Real is a 6 week series collaborated by a handful of bloggers, inspired by Tonya (Plain and Joyful Living) and Adrie (Fields & Fire), to open up the wide abyss of realness. The realness that lies behind the pretty pictures and face value of each and every one of us. The realness that we all struggle with at times. Get Real is a little peek behind the scenes; talking about what different areas *really* look like in our life, while juggling our families, work, and personal needs. We would love to have you share in the comments. This week’s topic:
Work & Creative Work
Often I have been posed with the question or comment of others wanting to know how I do all that I do. My answer took a long time to come up with, but at this point it is quite clear to me, and it is a one worded answer…intention.
I have most recently decided that I no longer will be living the stories that say “I can’t because” or “you can’t because”, that are so easy to tell at times. I want to live the life that I want to have…so I make it happen. I set intentions for myself…positive ones.
I could easily say I don’t have time to blog, write, knit, etc. I could also (just as easily) say that I love to blog, write, knit, etc and I am going to find the time to do what I love. And with that, my intention has been planted. Then, I need to water that intention in order for it to blossom into a piece of my reality. I need to actually create the time and follow through with my intentions so I can fit in all that I love into my days. I do this in a very simple way…I write things down…and schedule things in. I am a firm believer that by writing things down, plans are set into action…mere thoughts and ideas are enforced into existence. I write a list of what I want to do or have happen. I schedule it out on my calendar. In very small ways I create little bits of time for me and my creativity and what I need to do for myself.
So often I think, oh if I could only…go to yoga, or go do this or that…go somewhere away…
But then I stay, right at home, at the heart of it all, and find myself with small pockets of time that I can call my own. Pockets of time where I can look at my list of what I want to do and do it.
Writing is important to me. Having this blog is important to me. It started 5 years ago as a private journal of sorts, but then it changed and grew into what it is today. It has brought me to more and more writing opportunities both online and in print. At this point I have had my words published in several publications and magazines. Often the idea of writing and publishing my own book comes to mind. Maybe one on my families journey. We’ve been through a lot and I have big dreams on where we are going to go…with many details too personal to share in this public place, but perfect for a book. Someday.
Photography is my way of enhancing the innate beauty that surrounds me. I can capture it through the lens of my camera…infinitely. Something I see can then be shared…with others…in hopes that they too will be able to see the beauty it holds. Photography is like magic for me. My camera is my tool. I have been blessed to begin to see photography as a source of income over the past couple of years as well. And it all stemmed from this here blog of mine. I now regularly have my photography published in the magazine, Pathways to Family Wellness. Every issue they get their run down of what articles are being published. The designer will see what she thinks she can use me for. Sometimes it is making recipes and photographing them. Sometimes it is something more like capturing an idea or concept surrounding an article…attachment parenting, healthy lifestyle, etc. So I read the article to get a feel for an image and go from there. My very first project with this magazine happened to be the cover shot for their winter 2010 issue.
Writing and photography are both things just happen on a daily basis for me, whether they are being published or paid for or for my own personal enjoyment…they happen. I eat I sleep I write I take photographs. That is my life. I rarely have to think about how or when it happens. Usually it just all comes together. Sometimes I do have to say, “This project needs to get done. I need to make x,y,z recipe for the magazine and take pictures of it.” I make the time and do it, with all of my kids under foot and I wouldn’t want it any other way. After the shots are taken, I upload and edit, and do all that fun behind the scenes stuff. Then I get paid. What a happy end to the story. I am happy to be able to bring in a small bit of income while doing what I love and being with my family.
I also occasionally do private photo sessions. I started doing this a few years ago, and now life and a move later, I am finally pulling my act back together. Currently, in the works, I am also putting together a new etsy shop where I am going to put several of my photographs and sets of photo cards up for sale.
Aside from writing and photography, I love to knit, garden, and feel centered within myself. So about a month ago, I dreamed up a little daily rhythm for myself. It goes like this:
Drink warm lemon water
Sit down and do breathing meditation
Start preparing breakfast/kids wake up/eat breakfast
morning walk together
free time/outing/outdoor play/naptime/crafting/gardening
So, I’ve got my list…and note there is no set times, just a flow. Not everything happens every day. Rather this is like my ideal/perfect for me kinda day. There may be two days out of the week where I get out of bed before everyone else and get to do a bit of morning meditation and yoga. There are also days where we all sleep in late and it slips on by. Maybe it is only once this week where we got to go on a long walk during the day, but that’s okay. The intention is there. With plenty of room for letting go of what doesn’t pan out. That’s fine. That’s life. The thing here for me, is that I have set my intentions. I have written it out and solidified it. As I work a little bit on it each day, week, month, year, lifetime; more and more unfolds of the good stuff…the stuff I want to have time for in my life.
Finding time for myself and my passions and creativity is so important to me. And learning to let go of what I didn’t get to fit into a day is equally important. The real goal is not squeezing everything in, but making sure everyone in the family feels nurtured when they fall in to bed each night. As mothers, we often forget that that concept applies to us as well. Mothers need to take the time to nurture themselves and their passions just as much as everyone else in the family.